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Stephen Hawking on depression and life's difficulties

"Black holes ain't as black as they are painted. They are not the eternal prisons they were once thought. Things can get out of a black hole both on the outside and possibly to another universe. So if you feel you are in a black hole, don't give up – there's a way out."


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The Second Noble Truth


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The Science of Making an Impression

We meet new people al the time, and we are all taught essentially the same thing: Strong handshake, eye contact, smile, and don't slouch.  It's all “Be Balanced, Confidence, and Prosperous.”  But why?

Largely, we don't ask why.  We accept the old advice, act on it, and hope it's right.  Well, it is, partly.  But here's the thing.  When we meet a new person, we are primarily evaluating two things: Sincerity or Trustworthiness and Capability or Confidence.  We are determining two things about the new guy.

  1. Are you going to right by me or wrong by me?
  2. Are you are capable of doing what you intend?

Very simple questions.  Several studies confirm it.  One, as I recall said that these two questions account for over 80% of our reaction when meeting new people.

So here's the thing, though.  You have to answer both questions satisfactorily.  You can't just show confidence without also showing trustworthiness.  Doing so scares people.  "He may be out to screw me…and he seems confident in his ability to do so!“  Doing the reverse, while not as bad, is still largely ineffectual.  "He seems nice enough, but in an impotent sort of way.”

So remember that the next time you meet someone, start with eye contact, a genuine smile, hands facing up in an accepting pattern.  Show real interest in the person and their life.  Ask questions.  Give them the opportunity to speak first.  Establish trust.  This is your first and primary job.  And you won't do it with a firm handshake, a strong and clear tone, or shoulders squared off at the person.  Those things should be used only after you have first demonstrated your sincerity.  You don't want to be seen as untrustworthy but competent.  As a rule, that's the road to hate, resentment, and antipathy.


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Paul Johannes Tillich

"Language has created the word 'loneliness' to express the pain of being alone. And it has created the word 'solitude' to express the glory of being alone."

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Toy know I'm right

I believe that there are many situations daily that calls for that very special blend of psychology and extreme violence.


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Our most fundamental flaw

I'm so acutely aware of how natural it is for Man to try to attain power without recovering grace. I see it in my daughter trying to tie her shoes, in me trying to do a good job, and in all of us as we try to work through our various relationships and interactions. This fundamental flaw worms its way into all human endeavor, making a mess of our works.


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